A Man

Took me over a year to find something good I could sink my teeth into and took me just over a day to finish reading it.

One hundred and forty-eight pages of beautifully written prose by a woman that needs no accolades by this poor excuse of an essayist, so I won’t waste your time or my poor writing skills trying to do so.

There were so many things about Toni Morrison’s book, “Home,” that can be written and talked about, so why does a two worded answer to a simple question resonant with me so?

The 24 year old African American Korean War Vet and main character of the book, asks a simple, direct question of a very bright eleven year old who had his arm shot up as an eight year old by an over zealous cop:

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

The eleven year old’s straightforward (and highly profound) response:

“A man.”

Not a scientist, a doctor, a teacher or postal worker. 

Thomas, the pride and joy of his parents, who has scholarships pouring in from all over the country, simply wants to be, a man.

This eleven year old, People, just wanted to make it to manhood.

Chew on that for a minute.

The story takes place in the 1950s, but here we are in 2023 and I worry that we could get the same response from other precocious (and not so precocious), eleven year olds today.

What a pity that we are so technologically, medically, etc., advanced in so many areas today, but still continue to be so very backward and ignorant in so many other areas.

Education and intelligent discussion helps. Withholding information, proselytizing, and politicizing does not.

It’s 2023, People, we shouldn’t still be having eleven year olds worried that they won’t make it to manhood because of the color of their skin, their sexual orientation or their cultural heritage.

Life’s too short and too precious to waste on such nonsense. 

But what do I know? I’m ornery and old.

Have a nice day and I’ll catch ya the next time, looking at life from my shoes.


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I'm a retired special ed teacher, born in upstate NY, who spent most of my adult life in the SF/Bay Area and moved to the Olympic Peninsula of WA in June of 2017. At the encouragement of family and friends, who followed my silliness on my FB page, I started this blog a few years ago. I try to keep my topics as humorous as possible (because I believe "LIFE" is pretty serious these days), but will, on occasion write about more solemn subjects. I sincerely appreciate all who take the time and effort to read and make comments and am truly humbled when people actually "like" what I write. I do not participate in the "Wordpress awards" because I feel "awarded" when individuals actually read me and comment, but sincerely appreciate all of you who have considered me "award worthy" and thank you from the bottom of my heart. Hugs, Lucie

7 thoughts on “A Man”

  1. Sometime back, a reporter for the Baltimore Sun was interviewing a young mother and in the course of the conversation, she asked the woman’s son what he wanted to be when he grew up. The child pondered this for a moment, and then replied, “Well, if I grow up . . . ” Not when, but IF he grew up. Tells you a lot about how violent some places are.

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    1. Unfortunately, it does… “tell us a lot about how violent some places are”. Unfortunately, I am finding that “some places” are becoming “all places” in these unsettling times. Even small communities are experiencing the violence, discrimination, etc.that we are seeing on the news these days. I guess all we can do is go into the world every day and “spread a little kindness” every day. Anyhoo, thanks for stopping by and commenting. ;>)


      1. You’re so sweet to ask, Beth. Having some health issues and thinking that my blog days may soon go away (I struggle with simple posts…hard for me to publish.) There are a few of you that I would love to continue
        to connect with, tho. If you feel safe to share, pls send me your email and I will send u mine. You, Betsy, Mitch and a few others have been steadfast “blogging buddies” and I sincerely care and would like to keep in contact.

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